"Love, that is day and night - love, that is sun and moon and stars, Love, that is crimson, sumptuous, sick with perfume, no other words but words of love, no other thought but love." Walt Whitman
Whether it be to draw in a new lover, end arguments in an existing relationship, heal a broken heart, or the ever popular reunite with an old flame, love spells are usually what initially draw people to witchcraft. The allure of power and being able to bring yourself love by means of candles and sweet incense smoke lit in a dark room, chanting your incantations until you catch a vision, drawing your lover to you, meeting them in astral form is perhaps the most exhilarating thing you will ever experience. With power of course comes responsibility so just make sure you know what you're doing before you jump into what is actually one of the most complicated practices of the Arte Magical. Love they say is the thing that makes life worth living and the desire deep within will not let you rest until you attain you get what you're yearning for and are met with the open arms of the one you love. I do not believe in feeling guilty for your desires and encourage people to be honest with themselves as to what it is they really want and let themselves go there without fear, because in the end whether you call it the law of attraction or a spell you are using your thoughts, energy, and action in every moment to get what you want and I find absolutely nothing wrong with that. However I do believe in being wise about how you get what you want and I always recommend divination before casting a love spell or any magick for that matter to see what the energy of the situation holds and what sort of challenges you may be facing if you proceed. In witchcraft there's no such thing as blaming a scapegoat for your mistakes, those mistakes are 100% yours and you have to deal with them, so be wise in your magickal pursuits and when in doubt leave it to the professionals. The Witch is the one of the oldest professions in the world for a reason and just like going to doctor or even your hairstylist sometimes you just need the perspective of someone who studies, lives and breathes the subject on a daily basis. These techniques I'm giving you are meant to help cleanse, heal, and prepare your personal energy field for love magick, and to magnetize your aura for attracting love. Whatever your goal may be it all has to start with a clean slate, balanced emotions, and above all self love. You cannot jump into any magickal operation without first of all physically and spiritually cleansing your space and yourself. You want to be working good clean energy and spirits so smudge your space, spray your Florida Water, take a shower or bath and center yourself.
Release The Past
This exercise is used to make space for love to come into your life. Out with the old, in with the new. Smudge your space. Write a list of everything you're afraid of connected to love. This can be fear of rejection, fear of being alone, fear of self destruction, fear of betrayal etc... Be real, be honest, cry, feel it. Start your statements with "I release". Take the list and rub yourself from top to bottom to put your energy into it. Next blow three times onto the list, release your fear onto the paper, burn the list in your cauldron or fire safe bowl and flush the ashes down the toilet. smudge yourself. It is done.
Ritual bathing is an ancient practice found in almost every culture. It is a way for you to put yourself in alignment with your goal by transforming your aura with herb, flower, and root allies. Our aura is like a web of light that can collect energies and magnetize our desires to us. Using a love formula for instance will condition your aura to attract love. A love uncrossing formula will help to remove negative love patterns, A calming formula will help to bring peace to your relationship and so on. I highly recommend taking regular spiritual baths to keep your energy in alignment with positive blessings. If you are unable to take a bath or you don't have a bathtub you can use a scrub in its place. To take a spiritual bath prepare the space by making sure everything is clean, smudge your space, create an ambiance, draw your bath and soak 25 minutes or longer. While you're in the water meditate on your overall goal and visualize yourself happy, thriving, and in love, in a healthy relationship, at peace and so on. To magnetize your aura for love you want to use things that correspond with Venus like sweet and sexy smelling oils like jasmine, red or pink rose petals, sensual herbs like damiana, rose water, and so on. I created a line of ritualistically charged products including a Love Spell Ritual Bath (to call it in) and Love Uncrossing Scrub (to let go of the past) that are made with the proper herbs, oils, and essences to assist in your manifestation work. You can of course make your own by using your intuition and making sure your formula is balanced. Either way use the bath as a magickal tool and be consistent with it at least once a month for maintenance, 3 days in a row (Monday, Wednesday, Friday) for lighter workings, or 7 consecutive days for some serious manifestation.
THE MAGICK MIRROR
Mirror Magick has been found in many ancient cultures including Ancient Egypt, Greece, and Mexica (Aztec Empire). The Egyptian Goddess Hathor for instance was said to have had a mirror that she used for magick spells and the ancient Mexica taught that their God Tezcatlipoca had a magic mirror in which he saw everything that happened in the world. The world we are focusing on here is our inner world and it can be transformed by intentionally sending thoughts of love, healing, and peace directly to ourselves by using the mirror. In order to receive you must first give to yourself. Positive affirmations are a powerful way to transform your thought processes and eventually transform your reality as a result. I personally say affirmations on a daily basis (sometimes multiple times a day if needed) to keep my thoughts high vibrational and in alignment with my desires. I recommend affirmations to anyone in the manifestation process.
We're going to combine mirror magick and positive affirmations to create a powerful daily process that will increase self love.
You can use your bathroom mirror or you can find yourself a beautiful hand mirror or standing mirror. You can decorate it with symbols, crystal, feathers, shells, flowers if desired. You will need to first cleanse the mirror with white vinegar and smudge it with Sage, Palo Santo, or Copal resin. Next you need to empower your mirror with an intention. Some people write their affirmations directly on the mirror or if you want to keep it as private as possible you can simply "program" your mirror by placing your hand onto it and saying "I program this mirror to reflect back positive energy and vibrations only, I program this mirror with these affirmations (list your affirmations), So be it." memorize your affirmations. Each day hold onto or stand in front of your mirror and say your affirmations. Look into your eyes and connect with yourself. Recognize your soul and send love to it. Remember to only think positive thoughts while doing this because that energy is reflecting right back at you so be conscious. An example of affirmations you might use are : I am love, I am loved, I acknowledge my greatness, I am beautiful, I appreciate all that I do, or you can just say I love you. Start with five and keep them simple. This will be awkward at first but stick with it because it shift your entire reality.
The Love Altar
A love altar is a portal and focus point for drawing love to yourself. It can be any size, shape, or form you want. This is meant to be a physical representation of what you want to manifest and everything you place onto it has power so be present and intentional. I recommend putting this in your bedroom if possibly but any space you have available will work. You will first need to smudge the table, shelf, or surface you are using and you will want to clean it with Florida Water. Next you will build the energy of the altar by placing your hands onto it and blessing it with words that come from your heart. Items that are placed onto the altar are meant to evoke love, partnership, and romance etc... So for example you can place two Rose Quartz hearts, two red candles, a statue of a love Goddess like Aphrodite, Oshun, or Hathor, images of hearts, a diamond (real or faux) for marriage, images of a couples you admire, a bar of chocolate, condoms for sex, a bottle of champagne, and so on. Be intuitive, be creative, and let it flow. This is your personal creative expression of what love looks like to you and there are no wrong answers.
This is a way to enchant your favorite perfume, oil, or cologne that you can wear on dates, before going out, to the Wholefoods on 3rd street where you always see that cute person who keeps making eye contact with you and so on. Once empowered you can actually spray some on your finger and anoint the four corners of your phone with it before going on dating apps to give yourself a magickal boost.
Prepare your space and take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth, visualize a pink or red light surrounding you, filling you up, and flowing out of your hands, hold onto the bottle until it start to pulsate and say" I charge this perfume to draw in the energies love and to attract the perfect person for me." or something like that. Keep it short and to the point. Once you are complete say "So be it, so be it, and so it is". It is done.